Relationships End.....

I wrote this almost two years ago and felt like posting it right now,... I have a BEST friend that is going through something similar - and i just feel this is worth posting.... maybe it will help someone through a tough time?

Relationships end.......

Whether it's a good friendship gone bad,... someone dying,... or maybe a teacher/student relationship ending....perhaps a co-worker moving,...or even your spouse.... relationships end.

I believe it is in the cards,.... in order for you to complete your personal journey in your life, the one that was designed just for you,.. certain relationships must end, so you can embark on new ones ... better ones,... more healthy ones... ones that make you more happy than you ever thought you could be.

Also I believe every relationship has significance ... you get something out of each person you encounter - whether it's for a moment, months, or years.... there was something you needed from that relationship to become a better person,.... or a lesson that needed to be learned,.. or maybe it was you that was doing the teaching,...and didnt even know it.

Not all relationships start out good,....Even those people you have to encounter that radiate negativity are an important meeting in your life because they can help you grow spiritually, - strengthen your soul and make better human beings. No one escapes misery, rejection or pain,... it is what we do with it that makes us grow.

Keep in mind that spirituality is truly food for the soul, and we sometimes confuse it with religion. Religion is an expression of our spirituality, while spirituality itself resides within us and guides our daily actions. We all need something to believe in,... to give us hope and innerpeace - to make sense of each of the relationships in our lives.

There are many "themes" of humanity and I believe our personal lifes "theme" was chosen prior to birth.... you will encounter many people on your lifes journey that will help you fulfill that theme...and you may not even recognize it. For example,.. one theme is a caretaker,... if that is your lifes theme,.. you will always encounter people that need your help... life will just have a way of making your path cross with those that need you.. that you enjoy helping.,... another theme may be a catalyst..people that make things happen... if you need something to happen in your life,.. you will, inevitably cross paths with this type of person,... that happens to be there just at the right time and place.... there are many, many themes but i think you get where i am going with that....

If you're in a relationship and your "themes" dont mesh, .. you may realize the realtionship is going to end,.... a hole will being to appear in the fabric of your relationship, .. it can get larger and larger,.... is it fixable? Is it worth fixing? Ask yourself just how far you're willing to go to sacrifice yourself or your learning ability for the sake of staying in a relationship that stiffles you? Or a relationship where you can't be you?

I have had many relationships in my life that have eneded over the years,.... with people i thought were friends,... bosses i thought were wonderful,... etc... but i do not regret any of them,... i learned much from each one and am grateful for every encounter i have had ~ you don't really know yourself until you can sit back and realize - analyze all you've been through,.. what you've learned ....from who.... and enjoyed what positive relationships feel like,..... and hold on to that hope of pure happiness - where your heart is full and you wake up wondering what great things will happen today....if you havent done that in a while,... you need to refocus.... life is too short.

It's all a work in progess,..my rambling is as well,... but it surely worth thinking about,... what has the "theme" of your life been? Does it feel right? What do you WANT the theme of your life to be? Don't let someone else tell you your theme,... or manipulate you so you think that is your theme,... step back,... take a look at what YOU wanted.... what theme is you ?.... The leader,.. the humanitarian? the healer? The persecutor... the perfectionist? The pawn? The list goes on and on.... My theme right now may be analyzer.... not sure (will have to get back to you on that...lol)

Relationships end,...... new ones start .... be thankful for every soul that enters your life, even if it was for a minute.... there was a reason for it.... and if you don't think so, ...then they MUST have needed YOU.

Don’t regret that relationship that is ending,… be ready for new ones. Know that your relationship with that person was meant to be for a certain time … you cant force relationships to continue,… you know when it’s over,…. GOD is wanting you to end that one, and move forward for the special life HE had planned for you long ago. Believe it… embrace it. Be grateful for the things that came out of that relationship,.. and the many lessons you learned ~ but don’t let fear, sadness, and guilt keep you there. YOU are meant to continue on your journey… and that is what you should do. All relationships are worth your time - but how much of your time should you give, when it's supposed to end.