I wrote this almost two years ago and felt like posting it right now,... I have a BEST friend that is going through something similar - and i just feel this is worth posting.... maybe it will help someone through a tough time?
Relationships end.......
Whether it's a good friendship gone bad,... someone dying,... or maybe a teacher/student relationship ending....perhaps a co-worker moving,...or even your spouse.... relationships end.
I believe it is in the cards,.... in order for you to complete your personal journey in your life, the one that was designed just for you,.. certain relationships must end, so you can embark on new ones ... better ones,... more healthy ones... ones that make you more happy than you ever thought you could be.
Also I believe every relationship has significance ... you get something out of each person you encounter - whether it's for a moment, months, or years.... there was something you needed from that relationship to become a better person,.... or a lesson that needed to be learned,.. or maybe it was you that was doing the teaching,...and didnt even know it.
Not all relationships start out good,....Even those people you have to encounter that radiate negativity are an important meeting in your life because they can help you grow spiritually, - strengthen your soul and make better human beings. No one escapes misery, rejection or pain,... it is what we do with it that makes us grow.
Keep in mind that spirituality is truly food for the soul, and we sometimes confuse it with religion. Religion is an expression of our spirituality, while spirituality itself resides within us and guides our daily actions. We all need something to believe in,... to give us hope and innerpeace - to make sense of each of the relationships in our lives.
There are many "themes" of humanity and I believe our personal lifes "theme" was chosen prior to birth.... you will encounter many people on your lifes journey that will help you fulfill that theme...and you may not even recognize it. For example,.. one theme is a caretaker,... if that is your lifes theme,.. you will always encounter people that need your help... life will just have a way of making your path cross with those that need you.. that you enjoy helping.,... another theme may be a catalyst..people that make things happen... if you need something to happen in your life,.. you will, inevitably cross paths with this type of person,... that happens to be there just at the right time and place.... there are many, many themes but i think you get where i am going with that....
If you're in a relationship and your "themes" dont mesh, .. you may realize the realtionship is going to end,.... a hole will being to appear in the fabric of your relationship, .. it can get larger and larger,.... is it fixable? Is it worth fixing? Ask yourself just how far you're willing to go to sacrifice yourself or your learning ability for the sake of staying in a relationship that stiffles you? Or a relationship where you can't be you?
I have had many relationships in my life that have eneded over the years,.... with people i thought were friends,... bosses i thought were wonderful,... etc... but i do not regret any of them,... i learned much from each one and am grateful for every encounter i have had ~ you don't really know yourself until you can sit back and realize - analyze all you've been through,.. what you've learned ....from who.... and enjoyed what positive relationships feel like,..... and hold on to that hope of pure happiness - where your heart is full and you wake up wondering what great things will happen today....if you havent done that in a while,... you need to refocus.... life is too short.
It's all a work in progess,..my rambling is as well,... but it surely worth thinking about,... what has the "theme" of your life been? Does it feel right? What do you WANT the theme of your life to be? Don't let someone else tell you your theme,... or manipulate you so you think that is your theme,... step back,... take a look at what YOU wanted.... what theme is you ?.... The leader,.. the humanitarian? the healer? The persecutor... the perfectionist? The pawn? The list goes on and on.... My theme right now may be analyzer.... not sure (will have to get back to you on that...lol)
Relationships end,...... new ones start .... be thankful for every soul that enters your life, even if it was for a minute.... there was a reason for it.... and if you don't think so, ...then they MUST have needed YOU.
Don’t regret that relationship that is ending,… be ready for new ones. Know that your relationship with that person was meant to be for a certain time … you cant force relationships to continue,… you know when it’s over,…. GOD is wanting you to end that one, and move forward for the special life HE had planned for you long ago. Believe it… embrace it. Be grateful for the things that came out of that relationship,.. and the many lessons you learned ~ but don’t let fear, sadness, and guilt keep you there. YOU are meant to continue on your journey… and that is what you should do. All relationships are worth your time - but how much of your time should you give, when it's supposed to end.
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Can you "fear" anxiety??
I always thought anxiety issues that people claimed to have were a "crock" and an excuse not to participate in something, or just be lazy and opt out of life situations that make you uncomfortable or require effort. That turned out to be just another little thing I was wrong about during my little journey through life. Unbelievably (haha) this was not the first rude awakening i have had, nor will it be the last, I am sure.
Now to put it in perspective, i must differentiate between fear and anxiety. Any time you face what seems to be a serious threat to your well-being, you may react with the state of immediate alarm, known as FEAR. When you cannot pinpoint a specific cause for your alarm, but you feel tense and edgy, as if you EXPECT something unpleasant to happen - a sense of upcoming danger; that describes anxiety. The physiological features of fear and anxiety are very similar: increased breathing or a difficult time breathing, muscular tension, perspiration, increased heart rate... etc. The body responds the same to fear and anxiety, but they are definitely not the same.
I started having anxiety attacks about five years ago. I have slight ones frequently during the week... just a feeling that something is going to happen (which coincidentally, i am normally right - but that is a whole other topic to be discussed at a later date). I have only experienced a severe attack a few times - three to be exact. It can be crippling - the first time I truly thought I was having a heart attack.
In studying anxiety disorders i have found several interesting facts that i would like to share. According to Freud, children who were 'stifled' by their parents - not able to express themselves, or scared to misbehave due to particular consequences, may be at risk for adult anxiety. Think about it.. children experience realistic anxiety when they face actual danger as a young child, neurotic anxiety wen they are repeatedly prevented, by parents, or by circumstance, from expressing their id impulses, and moral anxiety when they are punished or threatened for expressing certain impulses. I have thought about this one frequently. My parents were very strict. We did not talk out of turn or discuss things of a sexual nature. We did not feel able to express our ideas freely, in my opinion. My parents are great, don't get me wrong, but certain generations are likely to grow up that exact same way: with manners, and proper behavior. Did having to leave the room all the time when our folks had company make us feel inferior? Not worthy of contributing to a conversation? Did not being able to express our anger during our teen years for fear of being in trouble.. or not being able to argue our points (wrong or right,.. isn't it important to be heard?)~ did these suppressed feelings lie in wait, -- stuffed deep down into our subconscious, waiting to creep out during our adult lives in the shape of adult anxiety?
Biological theorists believe that anxiety disorder is caused chiefly by biological factors - family pedigree. Researchers try to study how many people of the same pedigree have a tendency towards anxiety disorders. Like most studies, there are always studies to rebuke that - i mean,... if three of five children have anxiety disorders, is it because of their family genes, ... or (as i believe) because they were raised in the same atmosphere - raised by the same parents - thereby not really involving your physiological make-up at all .. but more like your immediate environment.
It is also argued that some children's ego defense mechanisms may simply be too weak to cope with even normal levels of anxiety. Overprotected children, shielded by their parents from all frustrations and threats, have little opportunity to develop effective defense mechanism. When they face the pressures of adult life, their defense mechanisms never matured, leaving them with certain anxiety as they face the world without having had those experiences, or developing that confidence that they can do it by themselves.
However the anxiety presented itself in a person's life, it is real. Until you have actually experienced it yourself, you may believe exactly as I did - "what a crock."
I normally do not agree with the way people raise their children these days,... letting them talk back... discuss things that in my day were not considered proper... letting them dress to express themselves.... things i didn't really agree with before,.... I am rethinking. I am here to learn .. understand ...change my perspective (as we all can) but more importantly, to regurgitate this information to anyone that will listen and maybe get them thinking?? :o) I believe letting your child speak up - talking to your child about REAL things.... letting them FEEL it's okay to express what they're thinking.. feeling.... may really be of more importance than just letting them win the argument about getting a Mohawk - or pink hair? Discuss with them "why" did they get so upset.. let them understand their emotions... "why" did you yell that at your sister? Bringing emotional behavior back to them, when they are calm,... will help them to 'own' it - understand it, and even better,... see that you are listening and WANT to KNOW how/why they felt a certain way. They want to be heard - understood - and it seems this generation is doing a better job of that than the era I grew up in. Perhaps they will feel empowered at a young age and not feel inferior or like they are not valued as much as others - thereby never letting that anxiety settle into their bodies waiting to attack them later. Nope. It will not have a chance.
Now to put it in perspective, i must differentiate between fear and anxiety. Any time you face what seems to be a serious threat to your well-being, you may react with the state of immediate alarm, known as FEAR. When you cannot pinpoint a specific cause for your alarm, but you feel tense and edgy, as if you EXPECT something unpleasant to happen - a sense of upcoming danger; that describes anxiety. The physiological features of fear and anxiety are very similar: increased breathing or a difficult time breathing, muscular tension, perspiration, increased heart rate... etc. The body responds the same to fear and anxiety, but they are definitely not the same.
I started having anxiety attacks about five years ago. I have slight ones frequently during the week... just a feeling that something is going to happen (which coincidentally, i am normally right - but that is a whole other topic to be discussed at a later date). I have only experienced a severe attack a few times - three to be exact. It can be crippling - the first time I truly thought I was having a heart attack.
In studying anxiety disorders i have found several interesting facts that i would like to share. According to Freud, children who were 'stifled' by their parents - not able to express themselves, or scared to misbehave due to particular consequences, may be at risk for adult anxiety. Think about it.. children experience realistic anxiety when they face actual danger as a young child, neurotic anxiety wen they are repeatedly prevented, by parents, or by circumstance, from expressing their id impulses, and moral anxiety when they are punished or threatened for expressing certain impulses. I have thought about this one frequently. My parents were very strict. We did not talk out of turn or discuss things of a sexual nature. We did not feel able to express our ideas freely, in my opinion. My parents are great, don't get me wrong, but certain generations are likely to grow up that exact same way: with manners, and proper behavior. Did having to leave the room all the time when our folks had company make us feel inferior? Not worthy of contributing to a conversation? Did not being able to express our anger during our teen years for fear of being in trouble.. or not being able to argue our points (wrong or right,.. isn't it important to be heard?)~ did these suppressed feelings lie in wait, -- stuffed deep down into our subconscious, waiting to creep out during our adult lives in the shape of adult anxiety?
Biological theorists believe that anxiety disorder is caused chiefly by biological factors - family pedigree. Researchers try to study how many people of the same pedigree have a tendency towards anxiety disorders. Like most studies, there are always studies to rebuke that - i mean,... if three of five children have anxiety disorders, is it because of their family genes, ... or (as i believe) because they were raised in the same atmosphere - raised by the same parents - thereby not really involving your physiological make-up at all .. but more like your immediate environment.
It is also argued that some children's ego defense mechanisms may simply be too weak to cope with even normal levels of anxiety. Overprotected children, shielded by their parents from all frustrations and threats, have little opportunity to develop effective defense mechanism. When they face the pressures of adult life, their defense mechanisms never matured, leaving them with certain anxiety as they face the world without having had those experiences, or developing that confidence that they can do it by themselves.
However the anxiety presented itself in a person's life, it is real. Until you have actually experienced it yourself, you may believe exactly as I did - "what a crock."
I normally do not agree with the way people raise their children these days,... letting them talk back... discuss things that in my day were not considered proper... letting them dress to express themselves.... things i didn't really agree with before,.... I am rethinking. I am here to learn .. understand ...change my perspective (as we all can) but more importantly, to regurgitate this information to anyone that will listen and maybe get them thinking?? :o) I believe letting your child speak up - talking to your child about REAL things.... letting them FEEL it's okay to express what they're thinking.. feeling.... may really be of more importance than just letting them win the argument about getting a Mohawk - or pink hair? Discuss with them "why" did they get so upset.. let them understand their emotions... "why" did you yell that at your sister? Bringing emotional behavior back to them, when they are calm,... will help them to 'own' it - understand it, and even better,... see that you are listening and WANT to KNOW how/why they felt a certain way. They want to be heard - understood - and it seems this generation is doing a better job of that than the era I grew up in. Perhaps they will feel empowered at a young age and not feel inferior or like they are not valued as much as others - thereby never letting that anxiety settle into their bodies waiting to attack them later. Nope. It will not have a chance.
Friday, February 5, 2010
My Dad
So here we are in February again. It's a time of the year that brings back many feelings/emotions about my Dad. His birthday was February 23, 1938. He would have been 72 this year. Unfortunately my dad passed away on March 1st, 2002, eight years ago. One week after his birthday. Many people don't get to say goodbye and spend time with their loved one before they pass, so I feel very blessed in that sense. What a different blog this would be right now if i never got to spend that time with him and say goodbye.
The knowledge of our mortality causes anxiety but this anxiety doesn't have to be negative; it can be (and should be) used to motivate people to get as much out of life as they can. A particularly eloquent expression of the inevitability of death came from Stewart Alsop, a writer who kept a diary of the last years of his life, as he was dying of leukemia. In one of the late entries in his journal he said, "A dying man needs to die just as a sleepy man needs to sleep, and there comes a time when it is wrong, as well as useless to resist." Dad was ill, and he got tired of fighting it, and went to sleep. Thanks to God, my mom and all my siblings were able to be at his bedside. How rare and beautiful that is, that we each got to say goodbye and hold hands around him as God called him home.
Researchers believe that adults may prepare for death through some process of reminiscence. Deeper still, there may be unconscious changes that occur in the weeks just before death - mental and physical changes included. We were able to reminisce with dad as we spent several weeks with him, taking care of him, and enjoying his love, humor, and laugh. As I look back, the mental changes in him, though devastating at the time, may have actually been a blessing in disguise, as he seemed to not be mentally there at times. Perhaps God does that on purpose to make the process less of a realization for the person fading away? Dad had good moments and bad ones, ~ he came out of a very coma-like illness on day, just long enough to say goodbye to each of us... and i have heard that happens more than you think. They are given one last hour of clarity and realization in order to comfort their loved ones. He didn't wake up again, and died two days later. Dad wouldn't have done it any other way. I miss him.
A few favorite memories of this wonderful man: he planted a baby buggy on the roof of the house, to show us little kids, that Santa must have dropped it,... bringing me green and gold roses (school colors) to my all state basketball game ... quiet talks in the late night about faith, God and family.... my high school graduation - standing around the bon-fire, telling me how proud he was of me. He was strong and encouraging in his own low-key, confident, positive way. He made strangers feel comfortable and could talk two crazed drunks out of fighting and have them laughing together in no time. He was a diplomat, he was a gentleman. He was strong, loving, and generous.
I miss you Dad. I love you. It's been 8 years and some days are still pretty tough ...i still might say, my dad died a year or so ago... because it doesn't feel like 8 years,... and some days i can get overwhelmed by a huge and sudden feeling of emptiness that can bring me to my knees and criple me with pain.... disbelief that you are not here. Just gone; way too soon. I always talk to you, think of you, and have you in my heart at every moment. I know that you watch over us, and that is what makes it OK - knowing you are holding a spot for all of us in God's kingdom, where we will all be together again someday. That brings peace to my heart on the rough days.
Happy Birthday February 23rd! I will send you balloons! Happy birth day into Heaven... March 1st!!! I miss you. I love you.
The knowledge of our mortality causes anxiety but this anxiety doesn't have to be negative; it can be (and should be) used to motivate people to get as much out of life as they can. A particularly eloquent expression of the inevitability of death came from Stewart Alsop, a writer who kept a diary of the last years of his life, as he was dying of leukemia. In one of the late entries in his journal he said, "A dying man needs to die just as a sleepy man needs to sleep, and there comes a time when it is wrong, as well as useless to resist." Dad was ill, and he got tired of fighting it, and went to sleep. Thanks to God, my mom and all my siblings were able to be at his bedside. How rare and beautiful that is, that we each got to say goodbye and hold hands around him as God called him home.
Researchers believe that adults may prepare for death through some process of reminiscence. Deeper still, there may be unconscious changes that occur in the weeks just before death - mental and physical changes included. We were able to reminisce with dad as we spent several weeks with him, taking care of him, and enjoying his love, humor, and laugh. As I look back, the mental changes in him, though devastating at the time, may have actually been a blessing in disguise, as he seemed to not be mentally there at times. Perhaps God does that on purpose to make the process less of a realization for the person fading away? Dad had good moments and bad ones, ~ he came out of a very coma-like illness on day, just long enough to say goodbye to each of us... and i have heard that happens more than you think. They are given one last hour of clarity and realization in order to comfort their loved ones. He didn't wake up again, and died two days later. Dad wouldn't have done it any other way. I miss him.
A few favorite memories of this wonderful man: he planted a baby buggy on the roof of the house, to show us little kids, that Santa must have dropped it,... bringing me green and gold roses (school colors) to my all state basketball game ... quiet talks in the late night about faith, God and family.... my high school graduation - standing around the bon-fire, telling me how proud he was of me. He was strong and encouraging in his own low-key, confident, positive way. He made strangers feel comfortable and could talk two crazed drunks out of fighting and have them laughing together in no time. He was a diplomat, he was a gentleman. He was strong, loving, and generous.
I miss you Dad. I love you. It's been 8 years and some days are still pretty tough ...i still might say, my dad died a year or so ago... because it doesn't feel like 8 years,... and some days i can get overwhelmed by a huge and sudden feeling of emptiness that can bring me to my knees and criple me with pain.... disbelief that you are not here. Just gone; way too soon. I always talk to you, think of you, and have you in my heart at every moment. I know that you watch over us, and that is what makes it OK - knowing you are holding a spot for all of us in God's kingdom, where we will all be together again someday. That brings peace to my heart on the rough days.
Happy Birthday February 23rd! I will send you balloons! Happy birth day into Heaven... March 1st!!! I miss you. I love you.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Why buy health insurance.... maybe you too, can get disability!!!
I am dumbfounded by the amount of people I see through the health care system that are manipulating and abusing government/state money. This is getting so disheartening to me that I have days that I feel like I should just give up. Why work? Why try to get ahead of the game,...ever? All I do is pay more taxes every year. I am a single person, with a decent job, but I get over $700 a month deducted from MY paychecks, to help the countless number of people around me, be able to sit on their ass all day and collect Workman's compensation, or disability. It is so outrageous to me that people abuse the system so terribly and are OK with it, and can sleep at night. What happened to self-respect, and pride?
Now, I know there are REAL cases where disability is necessary, for chronically ill, patients with REAL medical issues, and I know for sure there is a place for Workman's comp. The levels our lowlife society has taken it to over the last decade makes me nautious. Every day I see patients in our office in their 20's and 30's with this or that wrong with them - and when i ask for their insurance, I am told *almost with pride from these knuckleheads* oh,.. I get Medicare,.. I'm disabled. I get a look, like i should be impressed! I just wanna say,.. "well-played.. well done,... loser." *thumbs up to you* OK. So, ... granted you came to our office for a foot problem,... i just watched you bounce accross the parking lot,... and the limp started at our door....you're disabled eh? I am at the point where I am having a hard time hiding the disgusted look on my face - i have one of those personalities, where it's not that hard to read me,... *I am not fake by any sense of the word - try as i may, my face rarely lies!*
Oh,... i am depressed.... disability... oh,.. i think she's bipolar,... disability,...he is a raging alcoholic and cannot function enough to work... disability,.... she is over 400lbs and is on disability, simply because she's obese? Really? how about a diet? I am dyslexic.... disability.... it is LAUGHABLE!! I got into a fender bender.... my back.. my neck....cha-ching! .. *just another form of abuse i won't even add to this tirade!*
Should I throw in the towel? I feel on the verge of flying over the counter and actually "disabling" one of these free-loading losers. There are soooooooo many people that jump on that band wagon in order to avoid working! What a great example for our future generation. Some people speak with pride about being disabled .. oh,... I have a bad foot.... So freakin what!!!! So that is a career-ending injury and you expect a FREE ride for the rest of your pathetic life? You are OK with collecting a minimal amount of money every month to AVOID getting your ass up in the morning, and being a responsible American? Where you could actually earn ALOT of money and maybe enjoy a vacation, or some nice things? Maybe some new clothes for God's sake! Oh no,... that is too much responsibility for this generation. Why work? The state and government are too fast to say OK,.... i guess since you have an owie on your foot, there is no job in this world that you can possibly do! Here,... take the taxpayers hard-earned money,... and since there is more and more of you losers everyday, we will just RAISE their taxes to help pay for your existence... so you can teach .. "coach" others to play this game of living like a lazy slug and the economy can go into total ruins.
I know a couple cases where a person is actually very deserving of Workman's compensation, and cannot even get it - or an attorney to help, ..because the attorneys are too busy "ambulance" chasing for these people that stubbed their toe,... or 'fell' down at work.... and are expecting that huge payout - fake actors playing like they just have soooo much pain..... All they are is nuisance settlements and insurance companies pay them so they don't have to pay all the money fighting crap in court! It is a pathetic, vicious cycle that makes me so disgusted I could just SCREAM!
Then you have the nice little lady, who was walking to work, and someone HIT her with a car and ruined her ankle.... she goes to work everyday,... in pain,... coming in and getting a brace made,.. so she can keep on working! A 25 year old would have saw dollar signs and heard cha ching! It's the mentality of this generation .. they want money for nothing... they can milk a little stress fracture into 2 years! It is pathetic that lawyers, doctors, and everyone play along with this bullshit. Tell them,.. get over it,... get to work ... there are people out there in wheelchairs going to work everyday,... and HAPPY to do it.
I simply can't comprehend these people. Whew hooooo ... you get a disability check once a month for the rest of your life.... enjoy living in poverty retard!!!! All that trouble -fake-acting,..lying,...paperwork,...etc.. to get a little check and not have to get up and go to work... good luck to ya! Hope you feel good about yourself. I'd hide the mirrors in my house if it were me... Maybe when i cash my paycheck i can just stop by your house and give you some of my hard-earned money,... cuz ... well,... you deserve it. Poor babies... the world really owes you, don't they?
What if EVERYONE you knew did this????????? Our seniors are in fear of losing their health care,.. because of selfish, spoiled, lazy, degenerate people abusing the system -- and the older generation WORKED - sore toe and all !!!!!! if you are on disability and reading this and getting pissed, you may be part of the problem... if you are legitimate, .. then you wont be mad at all .. because as i said,.. it was created for a GOOD reason,... it's just gotten abused beyond control.
This message stems from my first paycheck of 2010 BEING LESS than last years checks, because MY taxes went up. Get it yet? Oh, ya,... you don't care. Montana has the highest work comp claims in the USA.... I hope they start cracking down and telling people.... quit being a freakin LOSER, and get back to work, cuz we aren't giving out handouts anymore!
Now, I know there are REAL cases where disability is necessary, for chronically ill, patients with REAL medical issues, and I know for sure there is a place for Workman's comp. The levels our lowlife society has taken it to over the last decade makes me nautious. Every day I see patients in our office in their 20's and 30's with this or that wrong with them - and when i ask for their insurance, I am told *almost with pride from these knuckleheads* oh,.. I get Medicare,.. I'm disabled. I get a look, like i should be impressed! I just wanna say,.. "well-played.. well done,... loser." *thumbs up to you* OK. So, ... granted you came to our office for a foot problem,... i just watched you bounce accross the parking lot,... and the limp started at our door....you're disabled eh? I am at the point where I am having a hard time hiding the disgusted look on my face - i have one of those personalities, where it's not that hard to read me,... *I am not fake by any sense of the word - try as i may, my face rarely lies!*
Oh,... i am depressed.... disability... oh,.. i think she's bipolar,... disability,...he is a raging alcoholic and cannot function enough to work... disability,.... she is over 400lbs and is on disability, simply because she's obese? Really? how about a diet? I am dyslexic.... disability.... it is LAUGHABLE!! I got into a fender bender.... my back.. my neck....cha-ching! .. *just another form of abuse i won't even add to this tirade!*
Should I throw in the towel? I feel on the verge of flying over the counter and actually "disabling" one of these free-loading losers. There are soooooooo many people that jump on that band wagon in order to avoid working! What a great example for our future generation. Some people speak with pride about being disabled .. oh,... I have a bad foot.... So freakin what!!!! So that is a career-ending injury and you expect a FREE ride for the rest of your pathetic life? You are OK with collecting a minimal amount of money every month to AVOID getting your ass up in the morning, and being a responsible American? Where you could actually earn ALOT of money and maybe enjoy a vacation, or some nice things? Maybe some new clothes for God's sake! Oh no,... that is too much responsibility for this generation. Why work? The state and government are too fast to say OK,.... i guess since you have an owie on your foot, there is no job in this world that you can possibly do! Here,... take the taxpayers hard-earned money,... and since there is more and more of you losers everyday, we will just RAISE their taxes to help pay for your existence... so you can teach .. "coach" others to play this game of living like a lazy slug and the economy can go into total ruins.
I know a couple cases where a person is actually very deserving of Workman's compensation, and cannot even get it - or an attorney to help, ..because the attorneys are too busy "ambulance" chasing for these people that stubbed their toe,... or 'fell' down at work.... and are expecting that huge payout - fake actors playing like they just have soooo much pain..... All they are is nuisance settlements and insurance companies pay them so they don't have to pay all the money fighting crap in court! It is a pathetic, vicious cycle that makes me so disgusted I could just SCREAM!
Then you have the nice little lady, who was walking to work, and someone HIT her with a car and ruined her ankle.... she goes to work everyday,... in pain,... coming in and getting a brace made,.. so she can keep on working! A 25 year old would have saw dollar signs and heard cha ching! It's the mentality of this generation .. they want money for nothing... they can milk a little stress fracture into 2 years! It is pathetic that lawyers, doctors, and everyone play along with this bullshit. Tell them,.. get over it,... get to work ... there are people out there in wheelchairs going to work everyday,... and HAPPY to do it.
I simply can't comprehend these people. Whew hooooo ... you get a disability check once a month for the rest of your life.... enjoy living in poverty retard!!!! All that trouble -fake-acting,..lying,...paperwork,...etc.. to get a little check and not have to get up and go to work... good luck to ya! Hope you feel good about yourself. I'd hide the mirrors in my house if it were me... Maybe when i cash my paycheck i can just stop by your house and give you some of my hard-earned money,... cuz ... well,... you deserve it. Poor babies... the world really owes you, don't they?
What if EVERYONE you knew did this????????? Our seniors are in fear of losing their health care,.. because of selfish, spoiled, lazy, degenerate people abusing the system -- and the older generation WORKED - sore toe and all !!!!!! if you are on disability and reading this and getting pissed, you may be part of the problem... if you are legitimate, .. then you wont be mad at all .. because as i said,.. it was created for a GOOD reason,... it's just gotten abused beyond control.
This message stems from my first paycheck of 2010 BEING LESS than last years checks, because MY taxes went up. Get it yet? Oh, ya,... you don't care. Montana has the highest work comp claims in the USA.... I hope they start cracking down and telling people.... quit being a freakin LOSER, and get back to work, cuz we aren't giving out handouts anymore!
Sunday, January 17, 2010
"Sometimes a cigar is only a cigar" .... S. Freud
What a great platform to share whatever is on your mind! I will begin with Psychology. I love this subject so much. It is so exciting and intrigues me everyday of my life. We are all involved in it whether we know it or not. The psychology used behind making your husband or daughter behave a certain way,... the psychology used in getting the results you want from your two year old... it's like Gepetto in the background making the puppets perform as he/she wants.... Wonderful right? - Ha! (maybe if you're Gepetto) - It can also be quite dangerous, when in the control of the wrong person. Skinner was quoted as saying, "I think a science of behavior is just as dangerous as the atom bomb." What a huge, insightful statement! Skinner was born over 100 years ago... could he have had the foresight to see what was going to happen ..that theorists would continue to nit-pick each and every quirk of a persons behavior - making too much out of every little thing? Putting labels and names to personality quirks, making them almost acceptable - Ahhh,.. well, she is bi-polar ... or, well...he has multiple personalities. Think of how often a person may be misdiagnosed and then subconsciously try to fulfill the symptoms of their new 'label' - it is quite a science of the mind, and one that I believe CAN be quite dangerous. An adolescent should not be diagnosed with some personality problem, and then be treated differntly, as though they have it.. Of course the attention of this new 'label' they may be getting from friends, siblings, teachers, or parents, is naturally going to make them feel significant .. special ... unique. There may be special circumstances where this is appropriate, but from my perspective (and this is my blog) - I think there is a fine line of doing more damange than good when diagnosing a child with anything. Parents these days want to find a clinical diagnosis to replace their inept parenting skills.
I want to explore the documented theories of personality through some famous (and not so famous) theorists... from Freud, Jung, Adler, Erickson, Skinner, Allport, to Cattell, Bandura, Wilson, and Kelly - to name a few. More importantly I want to document my observations, ideas and theories, since I am totally immersed in the pscyhology behind the psychology!! Over the last year or so I have been studying different theorists and have found that I agree with some, and was surprised to learn I disagree with ones I used to be intrigued by. Our mind changes at different points in our lives, based on what we have experienced. I used to think I admired the writings of Freud, only to wonder now, how most of his psychobabble was ever published? George Kelly was noted as saying "I don't remember which one of Freud's books i was trying to read, but i do remember the mounting feeling of incredulity that anyone could write such nonsense!"
There are so many famous psychologists out there, ... all with different ideas - theory's - on why we act as we do... why a person turned out a particular way...Some of it I give relevence to, and some i believe is simply outlandish, and perhaps that theorist was in need of certain medicaitons himself.
Some people may be thinking that personality theories is the easiest topic of all, and that everyone - especially they themselves - already know all the answers. Well, it's true that personality theories doesn't involve all the higher math and symbolic systems that physics and chemistry (the famously "tough" courses!) involve. And it's true that we all have pretty direct access to our own thoughts and feelings, and plenty of experience dealing with people. But we are mistaking familiarity with knowledge, and in much of what we think we know turns out to be prejudices and biases we've picked up over the years. In fact, the topic of theories of personality is probably one of the most difficult and most complex we ever deal with. Doesn't it sound exciting?
I think this blog will represent different stops along lifes road, as well as some of the different 'drivers.' I think situations worthy of writing about, as well as people I find intruiging, will be the different subjects of this blog. I tend to be a tich 'wordy' so hopefully there is enough room out there on the WWW !! Bwuuua haaa ha!!!
I must make a speical note, that while theories are many and most people are odd, soemtimes "a cigar is ONLY a cigar" :o)
I want to explore the documented theories of personality through some famous (and not so famous) theorists... from Freud, Jung, Adler, Erickson, Skinner, Allport, to Cattell, Bandura, Wilson, and Kelly - to name a few. More importantly I want to document my observations, ideas and theories, since I am totally immersed in the pscyhology behind the psychology!! Over the last year or so I have been studying different theorists and have found that I agree with some, and was surprised to learn I disagree with ones I used to be intrigued by. Our mind changes at different points in our lives, based on what we have experienced. I used to think I admired the writings of Freud, only to wonder now, how most of his psychobabble was ever published? George Kelly was noted as saying "I don't remember which one of Freud's books i was trying to read, but i do remember the mounting feeling of incredulity that anyone could write such nonsense!"
There are so many famous psychologists out there, ... all with different ideas - theory's - on why we act as we do... why a person turned out a particular way...Some of it I give relevence to, and some i believe is simply outlandish, and perhaps that theorist was in need of certain medicaitons himself.
Some people may be thinking that personality theories is the easiest topic of all, and that everyone - especially they themselves - already know all the answers. Well, it's true that personality theories doesn't involve all the higher math and symbolic systems that physics and chemistry (the famously "tough" courses!) involve. And it's true that we all have pretty direct access to our own thoughts and feelings, and plenty of experience dealing with people. But we are mistaking familiarity with knowledge, and in much of what we think we know turns out to be prejudices and biases we've picked up over the years. In fact, the topic of theories of personality is probably one of the most difficult and most complex we ever deal with. Doesn't it sound exciting?
I think this blog will represent different stops along lifes road, as well as some of the different 'drivers.' I think situations worthy of writing about, as well as people I find intruiging, will be the different subjects of this blog. I tend to be a tich 'wordy' so hopefully there is enough room out there on the WWW !! Bwuuua haaa ha!!!
I must make a speical note, that while theories are many and most people are odd, soemtimes "a cigar is ONLY a cigar" :o)
Testing, .. Testing.... 1 - 2 - 3
So, I decided to start a blog - An idea that has plagued me for some time, but didn't realize its simplicity until I visited my cousins new blog! (Vaughtsthoughts) There was a 'create blog' button right there, and I clicked on it, and 1-2-3 .. here we are.
I am going to have to organize my thoughts on how I want this blog to represent me, so it may be a while before I 'really' get started. I wanted to post this little tid-bit and just see how the whole thing looks!
P.S. ~ Blogging with Birdy is a name I chose for two reasons: #1 I was called Birdy for many years when I was young - because my name is Brigette - which my brother so lovingly changed back in junior high, to "bird shit" (they do sound similar if you say it real fast...) and later it was reduced to simply "Birdy". #2 There was an old radio commercial that was on early in the morning... quite an annoying voice (for first thing in the morning).. on my way to work i would always hear.. "Good morning,... it's breakfast with Birdy!" It was an old lady screechy voice - but the title had a catchy ring to it, so here we are ... Blogging with Birdy :o)
I am going to have to organize my thoughts on how I want this blog to represent me, so it may be a while before I 'really' get started. I wanted to post this little tid-bit and just see how the whole thing looks!
P.S. ~ Blogging with Birdy is a name I chose for two reasons: #1 I was called Birdy for many years when I was young - because my name is Brigette - which my brother so lovingly changed back in junior high, to "bird shit" (they do sound similar if you say it real fast...) and later it was reduced to simply "Birdy". #2 There was an old radio commercial that was on early in the morning... quite an annoying voice (for first thing in the morning).. on my way to work i would always hear.. "Good morning,... it's breakfast with Birdy!" It was an old lady screechy voice - but the title had a catchy ring to it, so here we are ... Blogging with Birdy :o)
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